I wanted to discuss marriage in the Arab world. Women are becoming more and more educated. They are going out into the workforce and getting jobs like never before. So they work just as hard as men do during the day. However, the difference is that, once both the wife and the husband come home, the husband puts his feet up and relaxes, while the woman continues working. Is this fair? Basically the woman’s responsibilities double, while the man’s stays the same. And if that isn’t enough, the man feels that the woman should contribute to the house budget- even though this money should be hers alone if we’re going with the Arab custom, and we are since the woman doing housework alone is the Arab custom- just as much as the man does. To add insult to injury, the woman’s mother in law will always feel that her son’s wife is not taking enough care of her house and her husband since she has a job, so she will always be complaining to her son. I was formerly engaged when I was still in university, and my ex-fiancee was 6 years older than I am. He had graduated and he had a job. Now even though men never listen to their wives/ fiancees, their mother’s words are absolute truth and they can never ever go against what their mothers say. So my ex fiancees mother told me that she doesn’t care about my fancy degree in science. All she cares about is that I mop the floors in her son’s house. Needless to say that was the end of the relationship :)
And even though both the man and the woman are both working and contributing to the house budget, the man always feels that major decisions should always be his alone and that his wife should obey him in all matters. Women-regardless of whether they work or not, must have equal say in anything that goes in the house. Decisions should be made when both spouses agree to them.

Now I know that not all men are like this, and that some men do help in the house and are very proud of their wives’ accomplishments in the workplace. But they are definately few and far in between. Ideas in the society must change, and women must get their rights! if both spouses work, then they should both share in the housework equally. Only then is it fair that the woman shares the budget.  I would really like to hear everyone’s comments regarding this. If you agree with me, tell me why, and if you disagree, that is fine too but again do explain exactly why.

later :)